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Obituary for Caitlyn E. Stoy (1991-2024)
Caitlyn Elizabeth Stoy, 32, of Norristown, Pa., passed away on Saturday, February 3rd, 2024, following a sudden end to a long battle with addiction. Born on August 21st, 1991 to mother Kelly (Byrnes) Trusdell, father William “Randy” Stoy, and big sister Ashley Stoy, “Cait” was a quiet, observant, caring, empathetic, funny, and kind child. She enjoyed participating in many activities, including ballet, tap, irish dancing, Girl Scouts, and playing the cello, spent summers with friends by the pool and at the beach, and enjoyed every holiday gathering with family, big or small. She went with the flow and was always willing to quietly tag along with anyone (but especially her big sister, and usually with Bitty Baby in tow). She attended Norristown Area School District, eventually obtained her GED, and went on to become a Certified Nursing Assistant. As a young child, Caitlyn had shown an affinity for helping the elderly and finally seemed to flourish in the CNA role; a sense of true joy, pride, and accomplishment were evident, and earned. She also seemed to take pride in her role as a fun, helpful, and loving aunt to her nephew and niece, affectionately known as “Deet”. This sense of pride and joy, however, was most visible in the times Caitlyn was fully present and able to care for her two sweet, beautiful sons Noah (7) and Zade (5). In the times she struggled, she was lucky enough to have a mother and step-father willing to step in and provide them with the life they deserve.
Caitlyn, unfortunately, did not extend to herself the same care she did others. Despite her inherent kindness and empathy, life as she came to know it was not kind, nor empathetic, to her. Her parent’s unwavering support and many attempts to facilitate and assist in her recovery became futile. The terrible disease of addiction stripped Caitlyn of the very person she was, the person she could have been, and the life she could have had. Even before death, it changed her with every waking hour, taking with it the daughter, sister, granddaughter, niece, aunt, cousin, friend, and mother her family wished, hoped, and often fought, to have back one day.
Although this disease stole the hope of recovery from Caitlyn and those who loved her, in her tragic death, she gave heroic meaning to her life. True to the caring soul that could never be completely extinguished, the soul that lives on in the memories of those who knew the REAL Caitlyn, her last living act was selfless. According to her wishes and those of her family, she donated her organs to Gift of Life, giving to others what she was unable to give herself: a second chance to heal and live a life worth living.
In addition to her sons, mother, father, and sister, left to grieve are her nephew, Ryan Stoy, niece, Brinley Stoy-Freed, step-father, Raymond Trusdell, and grandfather, Joseph Byrnes, as well as many aunts, uncles, and cousins.
Please, if you are struggling with addiction, know that life can be better and you are not forgotten, you matter. This disease will lie to you, abuse you, chase you down, and ultimately kill you, if you allow it. Recovery may be difficult, but it is possible, and worth every second of the fight. If you are a family member or loved one of someone struggling with addiction, never give up, never lose hope for their recovery, but most importantly, never lose yourself. YOU matter too, you are not forgotten, and life CAN be better - worth every second of the fight.
In closing, Caitlyn’s family would like to sincerely thank the nurses (especially Millie and Gerry), doctors, and other team members at Temple University Hospital - Main Campus for providing her with exceptional, compassionate care and keeping her comfortable in her last days. They would also like to extend sincere thanks to the entire Gift of Life team, who somehow managed to guide Cait and her family peacefully through her passing and the donation process. The emotional support, attentiveness, genuine empathy, and exceptional communication they provided will never be forgotten and meant the world to her mother and sister. Lastly, they would like thank anyone who ever extended their hand or heart to Caitlyn, especially in her darkest days, with true, genuine kindness, seeking nothing in return.
Relatives and Friends are invited to The Bernard S. Gutkowski Funeral Home, 305 Jefferson Street, Swedesburg, Upper Merion Twp., PA 19405, 610-275-6385, Keith J. Murphy, F.D., www.gutkowskifuneralhome.com, on Friday, February 16, 2024, where her family will receive guests from 9:30 a.m. until her family shares words of remembrance beginning at 11:15 followed by her Memorial Service beginning at 11:30 a.m.
In lieu of flowers, the family requests you donate to an account set up for the benefit of Caitlyn’s sons with checks payable to the account custodian - Kelly Trusdell, 2145 Sunnyside Ave. Pottstown, Pa. 19464
Kelly Trusdell, Account Custodian
2145 Sunnyside Ave., Pottstown PA 19464